Sex therapy is a type of therapy that helps people both in intimate relationships or unpartnered individuals resolve issues and improve their sexual function and intimacy. Sex therapy can be helpful for same or opposite sex attracted people, and it can address a wide variety of issues. In this blog post, we will discuss the basics of sex therapy, including what to expect and how it can help you and your partner.
What is sex therapy and what can it help with?
Sex therapy is a type of counselling that helps people to address problems related to sexual wellbeing. These can include issues with sexual desire, arousal, orgasm, and pain. Other concerns covered in sex therapy can be related to expressions of sexuality, learning about sexual intimacy, as well as sexual health. Ultimately, it is related to everything under the sun that relates to sexual health and wellbeing. Sex therapy can be helpful for people who want to improve their sexual relationships or who want to overcome personal challenges with their sexuality. The goal of sex therapy is to help people feel more comfortable with their sexuality and to develop healthy sexual self-esteem, as well as create satisfying sexual relationships.
During sex therapy, clients will typically work with a therapist to explore their sexuality, set goals for treatment, and learn new skills for improving their sexual lives. Often, sex therapy will involve both individual and couple’s sessions. In addition, sex therapists may also recommend reading material or homework exercises. Ultimately, sex therapy can be an effective way to address a wide range of sexual concerns.
How do men and women differ in their approach to sex therapy/counselling?
Though all genders may seek out sex therapy or counselling for similar reasons, there can be some fundamental differences in their approaches.
For instance, women are typically more focused on the emotional aspects of sex and are likely to openly discuss their sexual issues and concerns with a therapist or counsellor. They may see sex as an emotional experience, and so they may be more likely to focus on issues like low libido, difficulties with orgasm, or issues relating to emotional feeling.
In contrast, men are often more reticent to talk about such things, and may only do so if they truly feel that their performance is suffering. For many men, sex is often seen as a physical act, and so they may be more likely to focus on issues like erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation. The ability to perform well sexually is a matter of pride and proof of male virility. As a result, they may only seek out therapy or counselling when they are experiencing extreme difficulties in this area. Very often, this may lead to avoidance of seeking help until the concern has continued for months or years. By this time, relationships may have suffered greatly, and anger and resentment are now extra obstacles to overcome.
Of course, these are generalizations and there will always be exceptions. For example, some women may be reluctant to discuss sexual problems as they are worried that their partner will think less of them. As a result, they may internalize their feelings of sexual dissatisfaction. Very often, partners may state that everything else in the relationship is fine, except for the sexual aspect. The longer these issues persist, the more challenging it becomes due to habituation and awkwardness.
Understanding these differences can help sex therapists or counsellors to better tailor their approach to each individual patient. By taking into account the unique needs of each gender, they can ensure that everyone receives the care and attention they need.
What are some of the most common issues that people seek sex therapy for resolving?
Many believe that the only reason to see a sex therapist is for help with sexual dysfunction, but this is far from the truth. In fact, sex therapy can be helpful for resolving a wide range of issues, both psychological and physical.
Some of the most common reasons people seek sex therapy include relationship problems, anxiety and depression, body image issues, and trauma. Sex therapy can also be helpful for improving communication, increasing intimacy, and exploring new aspects of sexuality. No matter what the reason may be, seeking sex therapy can be an important step in improving one’s overall wellbeing. Your sex therapist should never judge you, and allow you to work at your own pace in a safe space.
What should you look for when choosing a therapist or counsellor specializing in sex therapy/counselling
When it comes to sex therapy, it’s important to find a therapist or counsellor who you feel comfortable with. This is someone you will be sharing intimate details of your life with, so it’s important to find someone who is non-judgmental and supportive. In addition, you’ll want to make sure that your therapist is properly credentialed and has experience treating the specific issues you’re dealing with.
Secondly, you’ll want a therapist who has received specialty training to work specifically with sexual issues. Additionally, you’ll want to find out what types of therapies/counselling modalities the therapist uses and whether or not they have success with treating patients with similar issues. By taking the time to do your research upfront, you can help ensure that you find a therapist who is well-suited to meeting your needs and helping you achieve your desired outcome.
The most important factor is how comfortable you feel working with your therapist. Don’t be afraid to speak up during sessions to let your therapist know if you feel any discomfort. Talking about our concerns makes us vulnerable, and it often takes courage to even get to the session.
How can you make the most out of your sessions in sex therapy/counselling, regardless of whether you’re male or female?
Coming to sex therapy can be daunting, especially if you are struggling with sexual difficulties. You may feel like you are the only one experiencing these issues, or that there is something wrong with you. It is important to remember that trained sex therapists are professionals who are non-judgmental and will provide you with a safe and confidential space to explore your sexuality. Here are some tips for making the most out of your sex therapy sessions:
• Be honest: Sex therapists are not here to judge you. They need to understand what the problem is in order to help you solve it. So be as open and honest as you can about your difficulties and concerns.
• Be prepared to talk about sex: This may seem obvious, but some people feel uncomfortable discussing their sexual experiences in detail. However, it is important to remember that sex therapists have heard it all before. They are not here to judge you, but to help you overcome your difficulties.
• Be willing to try new things: If the therapist suggests trying something new, such as a different position or type of stimulation, be open to giving it a go. You may find that it helps to improve your sexual experience.
• Take your time: There is no rush in sex therapy. The therapist will create a comfortable environment where you can take your time exploring different aspects of your sexuality. This may include talking about fears or previous experiences, as well as trying out new things.
Remember that progress takes time. Don’t expect miracles overnight; Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither is a healthy sexual relationship. Be patient, and you’ll find that sex therapy can be a transformative experience.
In conclusion
If you’re considering seeing a sex therapist or counsellor, it’s important to find someone who you feel comfortable with and who you can trust. Sex therapy is a highly personal process, and so it’s essential that you find a therapist who you feel safe with. If you have any questions or need any assistance, Mindwise Counselling is happy to help you with them.
